CONVERSATIONAL TECHNIQUES(THE START)

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BEING CONNECTED: getting things done, you need to have a starting hand, that is, you need to have something in touch (being connected). This is the first thing that needs to be done before any other thing comes in, greetings. Hi or Hello How are you Hey People have not known greeting a person you have not seen for a long time · Its been a while · Its been too long · Its been ages · What’s new? · It’s always a pleasure to see you. By this greeting, your target will be more responsible and directing to start-up a conversation. Give a compliment and tie it to a question. · That a nice hairstyle, would you mind showing where you go it? · I like your dress code, do you mind sharing the idea? · Apart from this, you can look around the environment and derive your question from it, for instance: the weather, people moved, and the kind of activity taking place around, even the buildings as well. Now there is a connection between you and your target. After dropping a question, you have to be an active listener. NOTE: · Don’t forget, to listen to others you must develop interest in them. · Look into their eyes and drop a smile, if you don’t they while: i. You are ignoring them or what they are saying. ii. You are untrustworthy. iii. You don’t like the look of them or you are not interested in what they are talking about. Focusing, by having eye contact and stay calm. The ability to stay calm in a social environment regardless of what skills you have, if you anxious you not different with a start-up person, you start with a mistake and end up loosing all you want or planed. Even though you nervous don’t show it, put a smile to kill it and always relax or you will run out of words. How to control your emotions. Meeting some one for the first time, don’t fed the person with all you got what will you say the next time you meet, ask questions like: i. Do you live down the street? ii. Where do you school? iii. Where are you heading to? POSITIVE PRESUMPTION Always ask open ended questions, don’t ask of an ended answered questions for instance: what brand of phone are you using? After this answer is been laid down, you are speechless of what to say next thereby killing all your chances. Start a conversation that will continue to your desired plans. Always ask open-ended questions for instance: Ø Place: school Situation: trying to close from school Focus point: doing some cleaning Your presumption: she ought to be through with cleaning Starting Gear: trying to close from school? I like your tidiness! Hint: what kind of cleaning is been done and how it has been done Ø Place: stadium (dressing room) Situation: Warming up for the match/ dressing up Focus point: doing some little stretches Your presumption: the person must be and strong enough to take an opponent out Starting gear: you seem fit enough. I like your jersey, it’s fitting. Ø Place: Market Situation: stranded (can’t find a certain item of want) Focus point: her eyes seem to be in search of something Your presumption: she is in need of something by her look Hint: What part of the market did you see the person?

 CONVERSATIONAL TECHNIQUES(THE START)
  1. BEING CONNECTED: getting things done, you need to have a starting hand, that is, you need to have something in touch (being connected). This is the first thing that needs to be done before any other thing comes in, greetings.
    • Hi or Hello
    • How are you
    • Hey
People have not known greeting a person you have not seen for a long time
· Its been a while
· Its been too long
· Its been ages
· What’s new?
· It’s always a pleasure to see you.
By this greeting, your target will be more responsible and directing to start-up a conversation.
  1. Give a compliment and tie it to a question.
· That a nice hairstyle, would you mind showing where you go it?
· I like your dress code, do you mind sharing the idea?
· Apart from this, you can look around the environment and derive your question from it, for instance: the weather, people moved, and the kind of activity taking place around, even the buildings as well.
  1. Now there is a connection between you and your target. After dropping a question, you have to be an active listener.
NOTE:
· Don’t forget, to listen to others you must develop interest in them.
· Look into their eyes and drop a smile, if you don’t they while:
i. You are ignoring them or what they are saying.
ii. You are untrustworthy.
iii. You don’t like the look of them or you are not interested in what they are talking about.
  1. Focusing, by having eye contact and stay calm. The ability to stay calm in a social environment regardless of what skills you have, if you anxious you not different with a start-up person, you start with a mistake and end up loosing all you want or planed. Even though you nervous don’t show it, put a smile to kill it and always relax or you will run out of words. How to control your emotions.
  2. Meeting some one for the first time, don’t fed the person with all you got what will you say the next time you meet, ask questions like:
i. Do you live down the street?
ii. Where do you school?
iii. Where are you heading to?
POSITIVE PRESUMPTION
Always ask open ended questions, don’t ask of an ended answered questions for instance: what brand of phone are you using? After this answer is been laid down, you are speechless of what to say next thereby killing all your chances. Start a conversation that will continue to your desired plans. Always ask open-ended questions for instance:
Ø Place: school
Situation: trying to close from school
Focus point: doing some cleaning
Your presumption: she ought to be through with cleaning
Starting Gear: trying to close from school? I like your tidiness!
Hint: what kind of cleaning is been done and how it has been done
Ø Place: stadium (dressing room)
Situation: Warming up for the match/ dressing up
Focus point: doing some little stretches
Your presumption: the person must be and strong enough to take an opponent out
Starting gear: you seem fit enough. I like your jersey, it’s fitting.
Ø Place: Market
Situation: stranded (can’t find a certain item of want)
Focus point: her eyes seem to be in search of something
Your presumption: she is in need of something by her look
Hint: What part of the market did you see the person?

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